Before I get into my crazy promise to all readers (one which I can see myself regretting soon after, if not before.) I’ll give you a quick run through of my epic/horrific weekend down in Dorset.
But first up, a MASSIVE well done to all of the incredible people who completed the 100 mile bike ride today around Birmingham!
My friend Linda smashed the course with her husband, I’m sorry that I didn’t get to see you at the finish line cheering you on!
A group of lovely people from Queen Elizabeth Hospital Charity, also took part in this event, raising money and awareness to such a good charity.
Well done all of you! I hope that you all completed the cycle successfully and with minimal sores! I’m glad that the weather held out for you all!
Relevant facts about me:
Irrespective of my brain injury, I NEED more sleep/rest than the average person.
I should NOT overload my brain with too much activity each day.
I should lead a relatively simple life.
I can’t sleep when I have so much excitement/nerves on my mind. eg. the day before operations or fun charity events.
I get restless and always need to have plans to keep my mind active and as fun as possible.
I never learn when to stop. Never ever!
So after a full Dolly Parton (9-5) at work on Friday – which in itself tires me out, I normally work just afternoons – I set off on a long 4 hour drive to Dorset.
Instead of going home to rest, I drove to Dorset to see my dear friend Hannah Moore. She kindly was doing me dinner for when I arrived and the sweetheart waited to eat herself with me. I didn’t get there till nearly 10pm! Google maps, yet again, decided to have a strop and kept glitching and sending me on a wild goose chase.
On a note to my family – I really need a sat nav for my birthday this year. Or an A2Z.
Hannah made THE BEST apple and blackberry (fruit from her garden) crumble. It was to die for! Seriously, she is a friend for life now. There is no way I’m letting that talent out of my life!
When I got myself to sleep at Hannah’s around midnight, my alarm woke me up at 7am. We both needed to be at the sports centre for 8.30am and I needed to have a quick shower before getting myself ready to take on the challenge of the GoTri Aquathlon. To see this event CLICK HERE
I had a right giggle with Hannah, as I was calling it Aquathon, that sounds normal to me?? But it has an L in it! Which just sounds so weird when pronouncing it. AquathLon? haha. Whoever came up with that name must have had a speech impediment.
The three of us smashed it!!!
Hannah completed the course super quick, in 24 minutes. Sarah was not far behind her. Then I came in at 46 minutes. Which I was really proud of. I did my best and I was happy with the result. Hannah and Sarah kindly came round and did a final lap with me too, such lovely supportive friends! Thank you both so much.
Another collection to my medals! Yippee.
The drive home was so lovely, taking in all of the beautiful scenery, which I’d missed in a frantic drive in the dark on my way down there.
The A46 on the way home from Dorset was so so beautiful! I literally had to stop to take a quick snap on my Instagram story but it didn’t do it justice at all.
If you’d like to check out my Instagram CLICK HERE. The insta story has probably ended now though.
So, the whole “pay it forward” motion, with the fundraising for blade prosthetics, is starting to look like it’s going to start next year.
Myself, Hannah and Mark (hopefully), will be doing a HALF MARATHON. Just the thought of it at the minute for me, scares the life out of me!!!!
I don’t have anyone coaching me with my running! (apart from Mark & Hannah sharing their support and advice) So I need to really whip myself into a better shape.
I need to really buck myself up and increase my distances, if we are going to do this. I have plenty of time to train. It starts tomorrow in fact! I’ll be in the gym running and doing core strength weights to increase my stamina and muscle repetition. 1 hour a day for 6 days a week will be my life as of tomorrow. There, I’ve said it!
I will keep a diary of my fitness to check up on myself and make sure I’m not slacking! I need to just envisage the 1/2 marathon medal and strive for that!
My dear friend Fiona is doing the Birmingham 1/2 marathon next weekend so I can check out her medal for inspiration. I will take a picture of it and save it as my phone wallpaper to stop me from slacking every time I look at my phone. Which is a lot!
This will happen!
I’ve declared it now to all of my blog followers, (all 3 of you). If any of you see me slacking please scream …
Thank you to the kind people who have sponsored me for this. Your donations are really appreciated and make the sore bottom, from socket rub, that little bit more worthwhile!
I completed a soaking wet 5k run yesterday morning. It was torrential rain over Birmingham and my dearest friends Fiona & Bethany, who are training for the Birmingham 1/2 marathon kindly did this run too. They kindly waited at the end of the race, in the rain, to cheer me on at the finish line.
I’m sure that they could have done an extra couple of laps in the time that it took me to finish! I walked most of the corners and puddled areas and my gosh there were a few.
I have a serious problem. Why can’t I just run casually in the park and enjoy the sunshine and the birds? Why do I feel such an urge to do a fundraising run!? Come rain or shine!? – In this case, rain, and lots of it too!
I decided to do this for Changing Faces, a charity very close to my heart, whom I’ve recently become a volunteer for. I’ll enjoy getting more involved with this charity and hopefully help to raise their platform even more to people with various facial differences.
If you’d like to kindly donate for my run please do pop a penny into their donation pot CLICK HERE or if you’d like to make a cash donation to me to post, I have a sponsorship form that I’ll be posting at the end of this week, Friday 15th.
Thank you to those who have already made a donation, it is really kind of you to support people, like me, living with facial differences. This charity does so much to empower those living day to day struggles. Like my dear friend Tulsi…..
Beauty comes from within… Be Beautiful xxx
P.S Thank you to my darling boyfriend for proof reading for me again. (I did get a 2:1 at UofB somehow, honest!) xxx
After a chat with my wonderful councillor Abeda, she suggested that I do a blog post on Self-compassion, after discussing my lack of it…
So first of all I thought that I’d find a good description detailing what I mean by ‘self compassion’.
So here are a few definitions;
Self-kindness vs. Self-judgment. Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.
With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend. – Dr Kristin Neff
Refuse self-pity. Refuse it absoulutley. It is a deadly thing with power to destroy you. – Elisabeth Elliot
Self -pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world – Helen Keller
Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) is used to treat problems associated with shame, self-criticism and self-hate, which can be features of anxiety, depression, psychosis and strongly associated with childhood trauma.
Paul Gilbert (2011) says “compassionate mind training helps people develop and work with experiences of inner warmth, safeness and soothing, via compassion and self-compassion.”
I am very proud of the fact that I don’t have an inch of self-pity in my life. My heart goes out to anyone who does. I imagine that it’s a horrible way to live your life.
Of course, I’m human, and some days I may feel like things aren’t going the way that I want them to. But not for one minute did I look at a bad situation with a negative thought and a wallowing self-pity. The thought of even entertaining that level of emotion makes me feel uneasy.
When I discussed emotional things with Abeda, I opened up to her and a flood of tears were released from my tear ducts. Those tear drops were loving it!!!! They hadn’t escaped for a very long time, so they went crazy dancing down my cheeks like they were having a tear party.
With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care that we’d give to a good friend. I don’t always do that if I’m honest. I mean, I don’t treat myself too badly, but I rarely check up on myself to see how I’m coping. I never give myself that hug and rarely do I ever pat myself on the back after a good effort.
To be fair not a lot of people do give themselves a pat on the back. Firstly, it would look weird, but secondly we’re almost too “modest” to give ourselves recognition of our good work or efforts.
I really need to not beat myself up when I don’t workout/run for a few days, or when I eat meat on an ‘off’ day as a pescetarian, or when I have a REALLY off day and have KFC! Always regret eating it afterwards too.
We are all human and we all make mistakes. We don’t need reminding of these mistakes all the time though. We can never improve our lives if we are focusing on the things that go wrong.
Getting on with life and focusing on the positives was my coping mechanism from my car accident. It’s not “inspirational” it’s just getting on with life and trying to be happy.
We should focus on the things that will make our lives better. The positives that will improve whatever bad situation we find ourselves in.
IF I ever decide to have a child (1 child max) I will teach them to be self-compassionate throughout life, which will hopefully shape their mind in a strong and positive way.
Shaping a young mind is hard work! I’m so not ready to take on that job yet. I’m still reshaping mine at the minute!
Please be kinder to yourself and be sure to be self compassionate rather than self-pitying your situation in hard, testing times.
Remember, the compassion you deserve is not self-indulgence.
I was first and foremost happy to see the two from the three musketeers...
Mark and Hannah.
I shared a room with Hannah on Thursday night in a travelodge, not too far from the Mildenhall camp site.
Hannah sharing the love with her blade! The love is so real!!
We all met up at a Road Chef on that complex, for a bite to eat and natter between everyone.
It was so lovely to meet so many new friendly faces. (I’m sorry I’ve forgotten everyones names, but I will not forget all of the giggles that we had.)
It was so lovely to see new faces and make a few new friends.
The excitement just couldn’t keep me asleep. I woke up really early Friday morning, must have been the excitement for the day of fun ahead.
The men and women on the camp were so friendly and welcoming to us all. We had to go through a security check at the start, however, I somehow forgot to bring my driving license. It is lucky that I had a photo of my driving licence on my phone.
It was rather surreal though. It really did feel as though we were in the US when everyone around had an accent and there were such huge foreign looking vehicles around the camp.
It was crazy. I was frantically looking around for Channing Tatum and The Rock to show up!
No, CT aside, there were some very attractive young American lads on camp. They were all really friendly and helpful too. It was a lovely day full with really lovely people.
I loved the dog training that was displayed for us too. That was pretty cool.
All in all, it was such a lovely day. I particularly liked the running class that Mark was coaching, along with other coaches. Everyone attempted to run, even on their every day legs, which I thought was brilliant!
I was always too scared to run on my everyday leg, as I didn’t trust the knee joint and thought it would buckle on me. It just goes to show that our biggest fears are mainly created through our limited self-belief.
You don’t NEED a blade prosthesis to run. If you really want to run you can try your hardest and you can do it on your everyday NHS leg.
However, the blade does give you so much more confidence to push yourself further. I am so proud of Mark and all he does to empower and encourage others. I will be forever grateful for your super kindness in raising money for my blade, as I’m sure Hannah is for me getting hers.
It’s such a lovely ripple effect of kindness and empowering others. I cannot wait to push this kindness on to someone else now…. but who will it be???? This one is going to be a total surprise for someone 😉 as it was for me.
For anyone out there feeling lonely and trapped because of their disability, please do get in touch with Steel Bones and follow the work they do. Such lovely friendly people.
“You are not alone, we are dedicated to helping civilian amputees.”
To read more about them on their website CLICK HERE
So after a full day of running, meeting and greeting, I was fairly drained of energy. But I didn’t have time to rest!
I drove into Cambridge to meet a friend and we went to see some live music in a cute country pub called The Corner House, where there were a few acts playing.
I do love my live music and although I was very tired from all the running, it was a really good night. Thank you Mike.
Can’t wait for the Gin festival next weekend and then seeing my work friend Jodie, playing in The Distillery Saturday night. To see She Beat Music on Facebook CLICK HERE
Talking of music, I’ll be seeing Ricky bloody Martin at the Gibraltar Rocks festival in September!!!! Living La Vida Loco
I cannot wait!!!! So excited for this now. If you’d like to see their line up CLICK HERE
I’ve been seeing so many snapchat stories with people at music festivals and it’s making me itch with excitement for this!!
They’ll be endless smiles here with myself, Tee, David and some of their friends. It’s going to be really lovely.
My gorgeous friend Tabitha so kindly invited me to join her on a little trip to Wimbledon!
My lovely friend Mary sent me this video of her gorgeous son Freddie pointing me out on the TV telling me he loved me! Melted my heart when I saw this. So cute!!! I love you too Freddie!!! And Felix of course,
Thank you Tabitha for having me as your date for this lovely day.
There is something really special with having afternoon tea with your dearest friend on a beautiful sunny day at Wimbledon 🎾
I’m very lucky to have this lady in my life. She certainly makes me smile.
I spoke about this event in a previous blog post, but to any new readers it was a para-triathlon, where Fabio and Hannah did the full circle, I did the 5k running section. I’m not too good on a bike and was too much of a wimp to do the lake swim!
Bravo to these two for completing the full thing in a really good time too!
So I first saw an amputee in action on a wakeboard with my friend Jack Eyers who has a rather Bond like picture done with Models of Diversity. Great shot Jack!
I have also seen the truly inspirational Amy Purdy on a board. A different type of amputation to myself and Jack but facing equal potential difficulties.
But fun, when overcoming a difficulty is SO MUCH MORE FUN!!!
The weather was so gorgeous for us too down at Wakeplusm- to see this place on Facebook CLICK HERE
This event was part of Fabio’s F-yourlimits project that Fabio has created to inspire and encourage others with watersports. The project is in collaboration with Wakeplus, ArcticOne, Alps Italy and Addicted Wake. If you’d like to know more about Fabio’s project and to see when you can get involved, do get in touch. You can like Fabio’s Facebook page when you CLICK HERE
If you’d like to read Hannah’s review on this event CLICK HERE
You can also see Fabio’s review on this when you CLICK HERE
Stay tuned for the next blog post of smiles for an update on my time at Wimbledon tomorrow. SO EXCITED FOR THIS!!!! Thank you so much to my darling Tabitha! Such a kind friend for inviting me. To see an update on this event CLICK HERE
She then served two years as a soldier in the Israel Defense Forces where she was a combat trainer.
She began studying at IDC Herzliya college before pursuing modeling and acting.
Israel puts great emphasis on everybody being able to fight, which is why women are included in national service. It’s really forward thinking and they lead the way in female combat.
What a woman!!! She should inspire all women to do more with their lives too, I hope she has.
She certainly has for me. I’m not going to acting school and I doubt I’d be much help in combat, but she’s filled me with confidence to strive to achieve my goals and to make sure I always have some in place.
My goals right now are to become financially smart and buy my own property, however I’m not sure I can do it with my part time income. I’m not changing jobs though, I love it too much at Free Radio, I will not be leaving all of the lovely people in that office!
I could do with another, maybe morning receptionist, job somewhere though. Hmmm I’ll get things sorted for myself soon anyway. Where there’s a will there’s a way!
I will be in my own place before the year is out! I promise to myself that goal WILL be achieved! #GirlPower
Now I should write more here about the AMAZING time I had on a Wakeboard yesterday down at Taplow Lake with the lovely Fabio and my friend Hannah. We had such a great time and my arms are killing me today!
I feel this session needs a whole dedicated blog post with pictures and videos included though. My arms are too sore to do all of that today so I’ll save my energy to dedicate a post about it on Wedneday, once Fabio has video footage for me to include too. Can’t wait to see it all and share with you soon.
“You go after things, you try, even if you fail you get back up and you continue to try and fail, continue to try and fail. Ensuring you never fail to try.
Failure is part of the recipe for success. It’s the loser’s that fail once and quit, every winner has done failure, the winner and the looser have done failure, it’s just that the winner gets back up and does it again” – Gregg Plitt
I’ve failed many times in my life, but I’m certainly not a quitter! Keep pushing forward and with a smile on your face and above all, just enjoy life. Appreciate the small things and work on the big ones you’ve not yet got.
I’m looking to get my own place so badly at the minute. It’s SO HARD to do it on your own with just one income. I fall in love far too quickly too. I saw one property in Bournville Village which I seriously fell in love with. I could picture myself in there, with a big smile on my face. I pictured making myself breakfast there and dancing around my living room in my PJs, – I don’t wear a leg in my PJs so I’m not sure where that made up image came from! haha.
Probably eating beans on toast 5 days a week, but with a massive smile on my face! It broke my little heart after seeing a mortgage adviser with my dad. As it’s shared ownership, it is suppose to help first time buyers to get a mortgage. To get onto the property ladder.
My little heart broke when I visited a mortgage adviser and it was made evident to me that it would be too much of a struggle on my own, with just my own income. (So I jumped straight back on to Tinder :P)
Jokes, I don’t want someone for their money, although a millionaire boyfriend would be lovely. Tinder can you add a filter for ‘current income’ please?
Happy Father’s Day to all the lovely dad and granddad’s out there and ones who have sadly passed.
As my lovely dad is away in Vegas for Father’s Day this year, me and my brother Daniel (his two favorites :P) decided to take him for a meal before he left.
So we went to a lovely restaurant called The Mount Hotel, as he likes it there. If you’d like to check it out and book a table CLICK HERE
The food is delicious there. I really enjoyed it and I’m sure he did too. Daniel and I went halves on the bill to stop him from paying, which is a real rarity for him, so I’m sure he appreciated it.
It’s such a lovely hotel actually. They often hold weddings there, so you can assume how beautiful it must be. I don’t know anyone who’s currently engaged but if you do, please do pass this venue on to them for an option. It’s a lovely venue in a beautiful location.(Yes Wolverhampton does have a few of them, promise)
So I’m sending ALL of my ridiculous levels of luck over to Vegas with dad, so he can win enough to help me buy a house 🙂 – did you notice my previous subtle compliments to butter him up. 😛
Men in Tight Tights!
I had a lovely evening date with my gorgeous friend Tabitha to see the Ballet last Wednesday. We met at our special meeting place Chung Yin Gardens for a bite to eat and a catch up.
This girl is the best at Chinese buffets, she always picks the yummiest. Although we were too late for dim sum (my favorite) we had a lovely duck dish in plum sauce, delicious! Then after a good natter and catch up of our colourful love lives, we headed to the Hippodrome for a lovely performance called Coppelia.
Damn those people work so hard to get that fit and able. It inspired me to try harder and build up my fitness even more. I need to keep myself going if I’m planning on doing Nuclear Blast in September, with my good friend Rob. I mentioned this with a video in a previous post if you’d like to open it in a new page to check it out CLICK HERE
Now as fabulous as the entire show was, I must say, my favourite part was when there were 9 muscley men in tights on stage. How delightful those peachy bottoms were.
They all (men & women) work so hard and it certainly pays off. Fab show!
Bauer Media Awards
So on Friday morning I woke early to get my rollers out! Wasn’t too impressed with the hair if I’m honest. Should have used my curling wand that my mom got me for Christmas that I STILL haven’t used!
My ‘mini-me’ Alex did my fake tan Thursday night and my lovely nan put my hair up in rollers. I didn’t sleep much with these in my hair. I had to make an effort for the awards, you don’t know who you might meet there 😉
It was a lovely day, but the continuous drinking in the sunshine sure did wear me out! My favourite part of the awards was actually the train journey home with a good old sing song. I do love a tipsy sing song! And we belted out some corkers on the journey from London Euston back to Birmingham New Street. Some great talent guys!
When we got back to New Street, a few of us went over to Brew Dog for a couple, I only had one here though. I was conscious of drinking too much and feeling crap all weekend, which I kind of have been actually. But with my favourite singer THE Graham Buxton playing at Fletchers on Saturday, I had to save at least some energy to enjoy that.
Cowgirls & Graham!!
Although I returned home on Friday a little worse for wear. I still go up for a park run Saturday morning! So proud of myself for doing it too! Woohoo! Go me!!! Thanks to anyone who prayed for me!
It was so hard in the heat and with a hangover.
I ran off the booze though and nearly collapsed after doing it! You’d think that would have killed me and I would knock Saturday on the head. You’d think wrong!
After the run, I went to my darling niece Isabelle’s 4th Birthday party!
Now this was a far more testing time for me then the run! My head felt like it was going to explode in a room full of energetic 4 year olds! So glad I’m single and nowhere near reproduction. I don’t have a maternal bone in my body! They say it comes with age but I seriously doubt it right now.
It was cowboys themed party too! MY FAVOURITE TYPE OF FANCY DRESS!!!
Now, if I was more prepared for this, I would have dug out an old costume and gone to it wholeheartedly getting involved! Unfortunately I could just about communicate so needed to get out after an hour of kids singing. I made a great little friend in there though! A young girl called Sky. She was such a little darling! Her parents must be so proud of her! I hope to see her again, new little bestie!
Instead of resting after this, I popped round to my good friend Pat’s for a soft drink in the sunshine. I was planning on being the designated driver and drinking soft drinks, but Pat kindly advised me to enjoy myself and get a taxi. I definitely enjoyed the night fully under this suggestion, more fully than expected in fact. Thank you Pat 😉
Ladies and Gentleman, let me introduce you to the superstar, Graham Buxton!! This guy is pure talent. If you saw him on X Factor you’d think, ‘why the hell is he on this, he’s far too talented!’
I was so close to doing the spoons, with the acoustic against my leg being so good!! But this talented young man would have shown me up! Class act on the spoons!
I love the vibe Graham gives out more then anything. He is incredibly talented and for a 1 man band he seriously raises the roof and gets everyone dancing! Even the 1 legged girls, as the lovely Sarah Dransfield will agree.
After Graham I popped into Moseley with my friend Jake for a couple of cocktails. “Hair of the dog that bit me” x100.
All in all it was a great night, but my god I will sleep well tonight! I don’t think I’ll be in the gym tomorrow morning neither. Making the most of my afternoon start tomorrow!
I popped round to my brother’s Sunday afternoon for a little lounge in the sun with everyone. We had a little paddling pool set up for the kids. So of course I jumped straight in! I loved splashing around in the sun with my beautiful niece & nephew, Isabelle and Ted.
Little Izzy wasn’t happy when I got water in her face unexpectedly though. Too far Kelly! I hope she forgets it as quickly as I will, so we can be good friends again!
I’m sorry darling!!!!
But to be fair, she gave just as good as she got! 😛
And as soon as Daniel saw her cry, he jumped in and got me with a freezing cold bucket of water. Fair play for picking on the one legged girl with a hangover.
Sarah in the sky!
My amputee bestie is doing a skydive with her brother Andy on the 30th July. I’m so envious of them both! I would LOVE to do this!!!!
I’ve been advised not too sadly because of my surgery and head trauma but if you’d like to support these two darlings with a kind donation please do CLICK HERE